Every now and then, it’ll happen—the exceptionally good first date.  You’ll look for a way to let her know that this might actually be the start of something special.  It’ll cross your mind: Maybe I’ll send her flowers.

In theory, it sounds perfect.  What woman wouldn’t want to receive flowers after a nice date?  In theory, even a woman will tell you it’s a nice idea.

In reality, though, it’s too soon—way too soon.  Despite the thrill that comes from clicking with someone on a first date, some people—both men and women—run for the hills when a romance seems to move too quickly, and sending flowers too early, particularly after just one date, can scare away someone who might otherwise have been willing to travel a little farther down the road with you.

This is not game-playing—it’s respecting the reality that, past 40, most people have been burned a time or two, and some defend themselves by bailing when the pace exceeds a certain comfort level.

It’s counter-intuitive, I know, but trust me—hold back.  Sometimes, particularly in the beginning, less is more.  If she enjoyed the first date as much as you did, she’ll be thrilled enough by your call the next day.  Get to know her better.  The time for flowers will come.

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